| LONG BEACH, Calif. (UPI) -- The late Patrick Swayze's wife has agreed to take part in a discussion on grief at the Women's Conference 2009 in Long Beach, Calif., organizers said.
People.com noted Lisa Niemi's appearance at Tuesday's event will mark the first time she speaks publicly since Swayze's Sept. 14 death from pancreatic cancer at the age of 57.
Niemi was married to the film and television star for 34 years.
Also slated to speak at the grief, healing and resilience roundtable are Elizabeth Edwards and Susan St. James, who both lost children in accidents.
California first lady and Women's Conference host Maria Shriver, whose mother Eunice Shriver and uncle Ted Kennedy both died during the summer, is to serve as moderator of the event, People.com said.
Copyright 2009 by United Press International
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| Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Annie: My husband's parents are wonderful people in their late 70s, but I am concerned that their kindness is being abused by my brother-in-law, "Dan," and his wife, "Jane."
Mom and Dad have always been involved in their grandchildren's lives, but lately it has become taxing for them both physically and mentally. Dan and Jane call on them for baby-sitting day and night. Often they drop the three kids off the evening before. My in-laws always oblige, even though the youngest is not even a year old.
Last spring, Dan lost his job. He now is home all day, but the kids are still with Grandma and Grandpa a lot of the time. Twice in the last two months, Dan and Jane strolled in well after 1:00 a.m. and my in-laws had to drive themselves home in the wee hours.
Saturday, Dan dropped the kids off at Mom's while he went golfing with a neighbor. Yet he complains that they don't have enough money to hire a sitter. I have taken Dan's kids when my schedule allows, but I think it is irresponsible for them to expect his parents to be their children's caregivers. I have been biting my tongue, but it is obvious to everyone that they are taking advantage of his parents. Should I speak up? I don't want to cause a family feud. -- Fuming Over Freeloaders
Dear Fuming: Your husband should talk to his brother, explaining that it's becoming difficult for Mom and Dad to take care of such young children, and urge him not to count on them so often. You are a caring daughter-in-law, but to a great extent, this is up to Grandma and Grandpa. Until they decide they've had enough, there's not much you can do.
Dear Annie: My brother "Tim" passed away from cancer two months ago. He had never married.
Within hours, my younger brother and his wife actually went through Tim's house and took what they wanted. My own mother kept all the money from his sympathy cards instead of using it to help pay for a headstone. Even before the funeral, several family members took over Tim's house and property and went through his personal things. Whatever they didn't want, they handed to whoever was around.
I live several states away, and right now, I don't ever want to speak to these relatives again. Your thoughts, please. -- It's Hard Enough To Lose a Loved One
Dear Hard Enough: Some people behave in appalling ways when a loved one dies. What seems like greed could also have been a way for family members to keep something of Tim's to remember him by, although your mother's behavior is hard to excuse. Please try to find a way to forgive them.
Dear Annie: Touche to "Put Some Clothes On," who complained about the way some women dress.
If one of my girls looked like a burlesque queen, she wouldn't get past me, let alone out the front door. I've taught my daughters, granddaughters and great-granddaughters: "If you advertise, it means you have something to sell." -- Great-Grandma in Sarasota, Fla.
Dear Grandma: Cheers to you. We're sure no one even tried escaping out your back door.
Dear Readers: Happy Halloween. Please dress your trick-or-treaters in flame-retardant costumes that don't obstruct walking or vision, and be sure an adult accompanies them. And when you tuck them into bed, don't forget to change your clocks back one hour and replace the batteries in your smoke alarms.
Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.
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