WASHINGTON (UPI) -- The U.S. Navy plans to lift its longstanding ban on women serving on submarines, the Defense Department said Tuesday. In a letter to Congress dated last Friday, Defense Secretary Robert Gates said women will be phased in as submariners. Navy Secretary Ray Mabus, Chief of Naval Operations Adm. Gary Roughead and others have been examining the issue of integrating women into the submarine force, Navy Lt. Justin Cole, a Navy spokesman said. "We know there are capable young women in the Navy and women who are interested in the Navy who have the talent and desire to succeed in the submarine force," Cole said. "Enabling them to serve there is best for the submarine force and our Navy." Cole said no funds will be spent retrofitting submarines to accommodate women until the Navy presents its phased-in plan to Congress. "I believe women should have every opportunity to serve at sea, and that includes aboard submarines," Mabus told reporters in October. Roughead has said he is very comfortable with the idea of women serving on submarines and having commanded a mixed force is "familiar with the issues as well as the value of diverse crews." Copyright 2010 by United Press International |
Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Annie: I am 26, and my sister is 18 months older. We have never gotten along well, but recently, there has been a huge rift. My sister and her boyfriend own a nice house, and she drives a new car. I am recently divorced and am struggling to raise three children on my own. Our wealthy parents have been helping me out a great deal. They purchased a "beater" car for me and are paying the insurance. They also have been giving me money for groceries and some basic bills. Still, we're barely getting by. My sister is enraged that our parents have been giving money to me for necessities, but not to her. Our parents have explained that she makes more than double what I do and has no children to support, but their words fall on deaf ears. Even though we've never been close, I love my sister dearly and want to have a better relationship with her, and would like my children to get to know their distant aunt. I also don't want to be the cause of her deteriorating relationship with our parents. What can I do? -- Little Sister Dear Little Sister: We'll try to explain this from your sister's point of view. To her, it seems Mom and Dad love you more and she is being punished for having a successful life. It isn't entirely about the money. It's about favoritism and fairness, with some jealousy and sibling rivalry thrown in. You need to acknowledge her feelings (without defending your situation), and ask what you can do to make it more equitable. Perhaps your parents could set aside a similar sum in case Sis ever requires assistance. Maybe they could change their will to reflect a more accurate final accounting. It doesn't matter what solution you arrive at, but you and your parents need to let your sister know you understand. Dear Annie: My sister's son is getting married out of state. We are not particularly close to my nephew, but I told my sister we would come. When my husband figured out that it will cost us nearly $1,000 to attend (and we are on a fixed income), he said it is a waste of time and money and the wedding will happen whether we're there or not. He prefers that we send a nice gift and our regrets. He didn't want to go to begin with. My husband is a very unsociable person and has never given my family the time of day. This sister is my only living relative, and I don't want to hurt her feelings by not attending. What is a reasonable solution? -- Not Sure in California Dear California: The reasonable solution is to go by yourself if you can manage it. You can celebrate with your sister while your husband avoids your family and spends less money. We are in favor of attending family functions, especially when they are infrequent and the family is small. But if going alone is not feasible and you cannot convince your husband to attend, you will have to call your sister and explain that although you love her, coming to the wedding is simply not in your budget. Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Might As Well Be Single," whose husband, "Ted," quits every job he gets because he wants a position that pays more money. Someone needs to tell Ted that you don't get a high-paying job just because you want one. You get it because you earn it. -- Torrance, Calif. Dear Torrance: You said it. For people who don't actually want to work, any excuse will do. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com. Copyright 2010 Creators Syndicate Inc. |
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