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Monday January 11, 2010

Health and Beauty Tip -- Throw Out Old Makeup
Women differ from men in sexual arousal
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Health and Beauty Tip -- Throw Out Old Makeup

Remember, cosmetics have expiration dates! Throw out mascara every three months, powder eye shadow every nine to 18, and cream eye shadow every six to 12. This will ensure quality make-up jobs and prevent eye infections.

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Women differ from men in sexual arousal

KINGSTON, Ontario (UPI) -- Women's minds and genitals typically respond differently to sexual arousal, unlike men whose responses are much more uniform, Canadian researchers found.

Meredith Chivers of Queen's University in Kingston, Michael Seto, Martin Lalumiere, Ellen Laan and Teresa Grimbos reviewed 134 studies, published from 1969- 2007, which measured the degree of agreement between subjective experiences of sexual arousal and physiological genital responses.

Overall, the studies reviewed data collected from more than 2,500 women and 1,900 men. Participants indicated how aroused they felt during or after they were exposed to a variety of sexual stimuli, called subjective arousal. Researchers measured the physiological responses to the sexual stimuli using different methods, including changes in penile erection for men and changes in genital blood flow for women.

The study, published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, found that for the male participants, the subjective ratings more closely matched the physiological readings indicating that men's minds and genitals were in agreement. For the women, the responses of the mind and genitals were not as closely matched as men's, suggesting a split between women's bodies and minds.

The type of sexual stimuli -- visually or as an audio recording -- made no difference to how well the subjective and physiological responses mirrored each other in men. However, it did influence women's responses, the researchers said.

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Annie's Mailbox

Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Dear Annie: I am married to a wonderful man who loves my kids and me very much. Since the first of our five children was born, I've stayed home to raise them. The problem is his family.

My husband's brother has been in and out of jobs, jail and rehab his entire life. Several months ago, he was hurt on the job and has been fighting to get workers compensation. Since he currently has no job and no money, my mother-in-law and sister-in-law think we should contribute to pay his rent, which is about $600 a month. Annie, we cannot afford this. We have five kids and our own expenses. We live comfortably, but we don't have a lot to spare.

Another of my husband's brothers recently asked us for a loan of several thousand dollars. We already loaned this brother money a few years ago and have yet to see a dime paid back.

Is it just me, or is it wrong of my in-laws to ask us to help support my 51-year-old brother-in-law, who is also an alcoholic and drug user? All these requests for money are causing a rift between my husband and me. Please help. -- Bad Daughter-in-Law

Dear DIL: No, you do not have to help your grown relatives out of their own jams, especially when they have proved to be poor risks in the past. However, this is your husband's family, and he apparently wants to continue giving to the cause. Discuss it calmly with him so he can understand that his family members are taking advantage of his generous nature. If he still insists on loaning money to his brothers, put aside a specific amount that you can afford to lose, and let him do with it as he pleases. It is not worth wrecking your marriage over this.

Dear Annie: I am a 66-year-old woman, married 42 years, and I can't take the clutter in my house anymore.

My husband saves everything -- including the corners he tears off of envelopes. Our spare bed always has papers on it, as does the top of the dresser. I can't store sheets or blankets in the drawers, because he has too much junk in there. Wherever there is a place to put anything, he does.

One day when I got mad, he said, "I guess I will have to move into the basement." He would never consider getting rid of the accumulated junk. What do I do? -- All Cluttered Up

Dear Cluttered: You've been putting up with this for 42 years? We're impressed with your forbearance. It sounds as if your husband is suffering from a form of obsessive-compulsive behavior. If he recognizes the problem, he may allow you to throw things away for him. Otherwise, please contact the International OCD Foundation (ocfoundation.org) at P.O. Box 961029, Boston, MA 02196.

Dear Annie: I truly felt the pain of "Sad at Christmas." For years, I bought gifts, organized parties and put up decorations, and often my family totally forgot me. One day, while looking at family pictures, I realized I wasn't in any of them because I was always the one snapping the photographs.

The following year, I chose one family member to be in charge. I then booked a cruise and spent the holidays in the Caribbean dancing under the stars and meeting wonderful people, including a wonderful man from England who is still in my life. I didn't miss my family at all.

Now I look forward to the holidays, and this year will be my seventh cruise. I come home relaxed, happy and ready to start the new year. I highly recommend it. -- Loving Christmas

Dear Loving: Good for you for finally finding a way to enjoy the holidays.

Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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Quote of the Day

Margaret Cho, weblog, 03-11-04

Try to love someone who you want to hate, because they are just like you, somewhere inside, in a way you may never expect, in a way that resounds so deeply within you that you cannot believe it.

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