| SAN FRANCISCO (UPI) -- Television star Mariska Hargitay spoke at a San Francisco conference alongside U.S. Justice Department officials about ending violence against women.
Hargitay is best known for her work on the drama "Law & Order: Special Victims Unit." She is also the president and founder of the Joyful Heart Foundation, which offers support to sexually abused women.
She joined Deputy Associate Attorney General Karol V. Mason and Catherine Pierce, acting director for the Office on Violence Against Women, at the Services-Training-Officers-Prosecutors Conference in San Francisco Tuesday.
The four-day conference began Sunday and brings together STOP grant administrators representing the offices of the governor, attorney general or criminal justice agency from every state government and territory in the nation.
Also in attendance were domestic violence and sexual assault coalition representatives from every state.
"I have seen survivors find their way back to lives of possibility, hope and joy, and I am so proud to be part of a movement that will change the way we talk about and behave around these epidemics," Hargitay said. "Through your work, you strengthen the possibility of healing for a survivor because you are acknowledging, responding to, and giving your all to do something about the violence and injustice they have suffered. That is why I am so moved by your collective commitment: because it has the power to heal."
Copyright 2010 by United Press International
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| Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Annie: My boyfriend, "Michael," has been irritating me for the past month. He breaks his promises, goes back on his word, bosses me around like crazy and gets angry and aggressive about everything. He no longer seems fazed if we don't get to hang out or talk on the phone at night. It appears he doesn't care anymore, but he claims to be madly in love with me and insists his feelings haven't changed.
I am a junior in high school, and as young as that may seem, I am in love with Michael. We've been together for more than a year, and I am confident we are a good match. But these small problems always end up becoming large ones. And it's always my fault. Michael is a year older, so I assumed he would be more mature about our relationship. I am tired of fighting with him. The arguments are long, depressing and get us absolutely nowhere.
I'm too terrified to lose him, so I don't want to break up. Talking only seems to make things worse. Do I keep praying and hoping he grows up, or should I walk away? -- Young and In Love
Dear Young: Just because Michael is a year older doesn't mean he is more mature. He also doesn't sound ready for a permanent relationship, and his rotten behavior indicates he wants out. You already know this, but you are reluctant to accept it. You should never be "terrified" of breaking up with someone, especially if he isn't treating you well. Believe this: You can do better. And you have plenty of time to work on it. Tell Michael you think it would be best if both of you had a chance to see what else is out there. We know it will be difficult at first, but we have great faith in your ability to turn this to your advantage.
Dear Annie: My sister-in-law invited herself to our second home in Honolulu for the holidays. She brought her husband, her daughter and her daughter's friend. They stayed with us for five days. We had a nice time. I gave them sensible gifts and a nice welcoming party with our friends and hula dancers.
Before they left, my sister-in-law told me her husband had instructed her to give me a nice gift. She had purchased a small necklace and earring set. She gave the earrings to her daughter and the necklace to me, saying, "It's not chic to wear matching earrings and necklace." I was insulted, but instead, I put the necklace around my neck and thanked her.
I still have unpleasant feelings about it and am considering sending the necklace back to her with a note saying I want my niece to have it so she can have the whole set. What do you think? -- Not-So-Much Aloha
Dear Aloha: Please don't. Your sister-in-law may have been less than gracious with her gift, but it will only make things worse if you return it. If you don't like the necklace, donate it to charity, and don't waste another second thinking about it.
Dear Annie: The letter from "Gray and Loving It" reminded me of myself. She decided not to color her hair and wants to know what to say to people who think she is older.
I, too, had decided to go natural with my hair color. Then two people (in two separate places) mistook me for my husband's mother. The next day, I went straight to the hair salon and colored my hair.
I love the new "do" and have received tons of compliments from so many people. The comments range from "I love your new haircut" to "You look great. What is different?" They don't notice that I've colored my hair, but they know I look wonderful. I will never go back! -- Used to be Gray and Loving It, But Not Anymore
Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.
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