Boardash: Women for Tuesday September 8, 2009

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If it's hot and humid outside, make sure to use loose powder when you put on your makeup. Apply with a large cosmetics brush. This will set your foundation and make it less likely to run in the heat.

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Women stayed home in Afghan election

KABUL, Afghanistan (UPI) -- The willingness to vote shown by Afghanistan women five years ago was not as apparent during this year's presidential elections, advocates say.

In 2005, with Afghanistan largely at peace, women took advantage of easing taboos to vote in large numbers and participate in the country's electoral process. But in this month's vote it was a different story, The Washington Post reported Monday.

The newspaper said Taliban threats, poor planning, fear, tradition and apathy deprived many Afghan women of the franchise in the Aug. 20 election,, with segregated women's polling places in some cities remaining virtually empty.

"Everywhere I went before elections, I urged women in the villages to vote," Safia Siddiqui, a legislator from Nangahar province, told the Post. "But when the day came, even professional women in the city who normally felt free to go to work and shops and weddings stayed home. I was shocked."

"Our constitution gives all men and women equal rights to vote, but in most areas that were not safe and secure, men did not let the women leave home and voted for them," said Sabrina Saghib, a member of a parliamentary committee on women's rights.

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Annie's Mailbox

Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Dear Annie: My older sister, "Daisy," and I have always had a relationship full of conflict. She is hard-headed and stubborn.

My mom and stepdad recently left me in charge of the house while they were out of town for a month. Daisy no longer lives here. She was never allowed to have boys in her room, yet the first night my parents were gone, Daisy called and informed me that she would be staying overnight and bringing her beau. When I told her I didn't like this, she said she only feels comfortable in the house when our stepfather isn't around (he's relatively new to the family) and then accused me of "being on their side." She's been here several times during the month and has been completely disrespectful instead of appreciative that I'm doing her a favor by letting her come over.

Annie, I hate how my sister splits the family apart. It's been like this ever since my father died. I want to talk to my mom about it when she gets back, but I'm not sure if I should get in the middle of Daisy's problems, and if so, do I leave out the part about her staying here with her boyfriend? -- Butting Heads in Ohio

Dear Ohio: It's always OK to talk to your mother about your feelings. As for the house-sitting, if you knew Mom would not approve of Daisy staying in the house with her boyfriend, you should have told Daisy "no." We understand how difficult it can be when your sister doesn't respect your authority, and there is nothing wrong with telling Mom what happened while she was away. If she plans another vacation, ask her how she wants you to handle the situation with Daisy.

Dear Annie: I'm a 61-year-old man, married for 42 years, with a great family. I thought I had it all.

Recently, my wife told me about an affair she had 30 years ago with one of our close friends. I remember being suspicious at the time and asking her about it. Of course, she lied then.

I don't think I can forgive her or forget. The man has passed away, but I feel as if I lost the last 30 years of my life. Please help me. -- Deceived

Dear Deceived: It sounds as if your wife has been feeling guilty for 30 years and thought it was safe to unburden herself. Unfortunately, what was old news to her is brand new to you. Not only are you feeling an acute sense of betrayal, but it alters your perception of the past 30 years. Please give your wife the opportunity to earn your forgiveness. Get into counseling together and see if you can salvage a 42-year marriage.

Dear Annie: This is in response to "Louisville," who was offended by her child-free married friend who states that she feels lucky not to have kids whenever she hears about problems others are having with their children.

I am a child-free person who understands where the friend is coming from, although I also remember my mother saying how lucky she felt to have my sister and me when she heard about someone else's children getting into trouble.

Louisville's friend may not be trying to reassure herself that she made the right decision not to have children (an idea I find somewhat offensive because it implies that anyone who chooses not to have children regrets it or must justify it). She may simply be grateful not to have those complications in her life. Of course, if she states it too often, I agree someone should speak up, as it can get annoying. But "Louisville" sounds a bit oversensitive and might consider why she is so offended. -- Hobart, Ind.

Dear Hobart: You seem to be reading a great deal into this. We don't believe "Louisville" is oversensitive. Any comment repeated ad nauseam is irritating. Any comment that implicitly criticizes you can be offensive. If someone does this repeatedly, we have to wonder why.

Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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Quote of the Day

Mary Gardiner Brainard (1837-1905),

That which we look on with unselfish love
And true humility is surely ours,
Even as a lake looks at the stars above
And makes within itself a heaven of stars.

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