| SALT LAKE CITY (UPI) -- More female veterans are becoming homeless across the United States, the Department of Veterans Affairs says
The current estimate is about 6,000 nationwide. Jennifer Eaves, a VA social worker in Utah for the past 10 months, told The Salt Lake Tribune she has found around a dozen in that state.
Eaves, a veteran of the Navy, said many homeless women who have served in the military do not realize they are eligible for help from the VA, Some who do are reluctant to ask for help.
"Women are more likely to leave the military with a few less reasons to trust the system than men," Eaves said. "It's still true today that women suffer from humiliation, intimidation and sexual harassment."
Deborah Caldwell, 29, who served in the Air Force, found out she was eligible for benefits only because of a social worker's mistake when she and her three children checked into a Salt Lake City shelter. She noticed the social worker had not checked the veteran's box on the form, pointed that out and then was referred to the VA and Eaves.
Copyright 2009 by United Press International
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| Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Annie: Five years ago, my wife had an affair with my best friend, left me and married him. She now has total custody of our two kids. She lied to the court and to our friends and said I was an abusive husband. Everyone believed her, and in the small town where we live, it has left me feeling like an outsider.
I can't stand it here anymore. But if I move somewhere else, I will lose what little contact I have with my children. I also have a good job, and this would not be a good time to try finding another.
Should I stay and attempt to counter all the lies that have been spread about me? Or do I move away and start all over again? -- Alone in Oregon
Dear Oregon: You are tremendously important to your children, and if you leave, they may consider it abandonment. Decent parents avoid being punitive toward each other in order to make their children's lives easier. This doesn't seem to be the case here, and we worry about what might happen if you moved. Will your ex make it difficult for the children to spend time with you in the summer and over holidays? Will you continue to make the necessary effort to stay emotionally close or decide it's too hard and give up? Could you move to a nearby town where your reputation could be rehabilitated while maintaining the same contact with your children? We understand the urge to get out of Dodge, but please consider your children's needs before making a decision.
Dear Annie: My wife and I are in our late 80s and need help with those who greet family members with kisses on the mouth.
Our young great-grandchildren and their parents do not realize the risk of passing colds and flu to the elderly this way. At our age, we do not recover from colds as easily as we did when we were young. We could even die as a result.
When someone tries to kiss me on the mouth, I quickly turn my cheek to them and save my kisses for my wife. With the flu season upon us, maybe this reminder would help convince people of the dangers of this practice. I have checked with our doctors and nurses, and they agree with me. How do I deal with this without hurting anyone's feelings? -- Turning Cheek in New Hampshire
Dear New Hampshire: These are family members, so be honest with them. Explain that you love the affection, but you worry about catching something that will put you in the hospital. Ask your relatives to avoid kissing you on the mouth, and then have them instruct their delightful children to do the same and tell them why. There is no reason for anyone to be hurt or offended by your very reasonable request.
Dear Annie: Please tell "Depressed and Overwhelmed" that the possible cause of her depression may be hypothyroidism. It is very often undiagnosed, especially if she does not have a primary care physician. She could have Hashimoto's thyroiditis, which is not that uncommon.
"Depressed" needs a primary care physician who will run a TSH, free T4 and free T3 blood tests. In some instances, the blood work looks OK, but the patient still has a thyroid problem.
I had a similar problem and was tired of being on antidepressants for years. I read an article about Hashimoto's, took it to my doctor and insisted she check all three blood tests. The tests were positive. The solution is thyroid replacement, which is quite inexpensive. It can take a few months of treatment to get to the correct replacement level, but it is so worth it. I no longer take antidepressants and feel great. -- South Bend, Ind.
Dear South Bend: Thank goodness you took that article to your doctor. We hope your letter will help someone else today.
Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.
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