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Wednesday October 21, 2009

Health and Beauty Tip -- Using Body Scrub at Home
First lady: Teachers are leaders
Annie's Mailbox
Quote of the Day
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Health and Beauty Tip -- Using Body Scrub at Home

If you have a good body scrub you use at home, scrub towards your heart when you use it. Start at your feet and work up to your torso. When doing your arms, start at the fingertips and work up to your shoulders. Massage gently in circular motions to avoid scrubbing too hard.

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First lady: Teachers are leaders

WASHINGTON (UPI) -- Vision, sense of purpose and the ability to inspire are qualities of great teachers and great leaders, U.S. first lady Michelle Obama says.

"As (President Barack Obama) has frequently said, in a 21st century global economy where jobs can be shipped to any place with an Internet connection, and children here in America will be competing with children around the world for the same jobs, a good education is no longer just one road to opportunity -- it is the only road," Obama wrote in a commentary posted Thursday on U.S. News and World Report's Web site.

Reports indicate, however, that as many as a third of America's 3.2 million teachers could retire during the next four years, Obama said. The Education Department has projected schools will hire as many as 1 million new teachers.

"Today, we need a new generation of leaders to take their place in our nation's schools," she said. "We need passionate, talented, committed men and women to step up and devote themselves to preparing our students to succeed in this new century."

But teachers are only part of the equation, she said. Parents must ensure homework gets done and limit television and video gaming. Colleges and universities must redouble their efforts to prepare teachers for the classroom. The federal government must support efforts to recruit and retain teachers, and to reward high-performing teachers.

Along those lines, the president has invested $3 billion to turn around struggling schools and proposed a nationwide teacher recruitment program, she said.

When thinking of qualities that make an outstanding teacher -- patience, vision, purpose, creativity, inspiration -- "we realize: these are also the qualities of a great leader," she said.

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Annie's Mailbox

Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Dear Annie: "Audrey" and I have been together for 21 years, married for 16. The past couple of years, however, have been stressful.

While camping with friends, I walked into our RV to see Audrey half-naked with another man. She told me she was just flashing him. A few months later, I was working out of town, and when I called home, Audrey just happened to be cutting that same guy's hair at her home salon. She told me he had already left, but I heard him coughing in the background. I called a friend, who checked our driveway and discovered this guy's truck parked there. It was still there at midnight.

When I confronted them separately, they both gave me the same story: He got his hair cut and went home at 9:30. Once I told them I knew better, they both protested that nothing happened. The next time I was out of town for work, I came home to find a man's sweatshirt in our laundry. Audrey denied knowing whose shirt it was.

We have been in counseling both separately and jointly. I seem to be the only one who wants this marriage to work. Audrey goes to bars and concerts without me. She usually springs these events on me at the last minute, so it is hard to find a babysitter and one of us has to stay home -- me.

I have forgiven Audrey for everything, although I haven't forgotten. When do you know it's time to throw in the towel? -- Stressed Out in Wisconsin

Dear Stressed: We think Audrey already bought new towels. She doesn't seem to have much interest in behaving like a married woman. You have children, so it's worth the effort to get back into counseling and see if you can do anything to effect change. But sorry to say, without Audrey's cooperation, it doesn't sound promising.

Dear Annie: My friend "Jenna" is a homebody. We are in our early 20s, and she avoids bars and clubs. All get-togethers must be planned well in advance, and she often cancels at the last minute. But I've always been respectful of her preferences.

Recently, we planned a dinner with a friend we hadn't seen in months. An hour before, Jenna texted me and canceled, saying she "didn't feel like it." I tried to convince her to change her mind, but she would not budge. I was furious and hung up.

A month went by and I sent her an e-mail telling her I was hurt by her last-minute cancellation and because she didn't call to apologize. She insists I am wrong for trying to convince her to do something she didn't want to do, and then hanging up on her. Any thoughts? -- Ditched in Montreal

Dear Montreal: Neither of you handled this well. Not everyone is Miss Social, but repeatedly canceling plans at the last minute is more anxiety than preference. Jenna sounds as if she may be developing some agoraphobia, which can become worse over time. Please be a good friend and talk to her about this. For information, contact the Anxiety Disorders Association of America (adaa.org), 8730 Georgia Ave., Suite 600, Silver Spring, MD 20910.

Dear Annie: My heart goes out to "Ill and Lonely," who is battling cancer and feels abandoned by her friends and relatives. I hope they will step up and support her, but sometimes this just doesn't happen, and I am writing about an alternative.

I belong to a marvelous organization called Chemo Angels, whose purpose is to bring support and cheer to people undergoing chemo. A volunteer is paired with someone struggling with cancer treatments. The program is free, and there is no obligation to maintain contact. -- Angel Carin

Dear Carin: Thank you for the recommendation. Interested readers can check out Chemo Angels (chemoangels.net) at P.O. Box 1971, Julian, CA 92036.

Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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Quote of the Day

Katharine Whitehorn

Have you ever taken something out of the clothes hamper because it had become, relatively, the cleanest thing?

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